What`s The Point Being A Stay At Home Wife When You Have No Kids?

Bored to Death Here

Right now 8.20 pm. Hubby still on the way home from office. Milan my Toy Poodle maybe playing by himself at his confinement. My little sister probably surfing the internet in her room. And I`m bored to death.

I`m starting to question myself, is this life that I wanted? being a house wife with no kids? what`s the point staying at home when you have no kids to takecare? This question often get me carried away until I sometimes cry alone.

I`m starting get used to people`s judging my role as stay at home wife. They can think and say anything, none of my business, I cant control other`s people brain anyway, just like they cant control mine. We`re even I guess. So, my big concern right now is my role as a Mother... When will I be? This longing is killing me..

I`ve thought about get back into work, but Hubby won`t let me. It`s a dead end. Confused.

Puppy's First Day at Home!

He was so tiny and cutey...

We let him wander around the certain area, it was indoor located at the back of our home but have good air circulation, dry area with lots of sun rays and also have AC in case the heat too strong..

He often slept near these boots! That somewhat gross of course, but that`s what he liked. Because the 1st 3 days at home we put him in the cage, he cried a LOT. So yeah, boots wont hurt.. The area was secure from rats, rain and heat..

He also often came into the guest bedroom and slept there all day.. He was so tiny.. Look at that!

We bought these tools 1st day Milan arrived. It wasn`t that complete but at least it useful..

Tick and Flea

I found some disturbing event with Milan days before Milan get his last Jab.. Someday I was pet him gently along his head and back.. Somehow.. I found this filthy tick and flea..

 

O MY.. I was panicked like hell and didnt know what to do... So I grabbed wet tissue and I pulled off the tick or flea (I can`t tell which are them).. Then there`s little mount of blood comes out from Milan`s skin... That was terrific event! I put alcohol onto that scar and gave betadine.

I just realized now Milan actually has shown the symptoms of tick and flea since day 1 we have him at home. He scratch a LOT and often get carried away until he bit his own hand. I really didnt notice at the time (since I`m newbie owning a dog), I thought it was normal for puppy to scratch like that.

I feel bad at that moment, for letting those ticks and fleas reproduced their eggs that far. I wish I knew earlier, but if referring to the breeder then no wonder this happened. We got Milan from such a dirty breeder. He have 30 dogs in a 6x10 meter land house, no outdoor space or garden. When we 1st took Milan, he smells like sh**t, I even cancelled the purchase at that time because of that hygiene matter, but Hubby already falling love in the 1st sight with Milan. So on our way home, we called the breeder and asked him to deliver Milan to our home.

Bad breeder! Poor puppies! GOD!

Puppies Toys

When it comes to puppy, I always excited about their toys. It`s tiny, adorable, colourful, fluffy, eye catching... just like them.. 

I read somewhere in internet that puppy toys should fulfill their needs to keep dog's mind stimulated, discourage problem behavior and promote dental health. There are many kind of it, like: chew toys, rope toys, plush toys, squeaky toys and more.

So far I`ve managed to bought him just few of them. Those little rubber ball for play fecth, plastic textured bone for dental chew, fluffy doll ussually called plush toys that he likes to carry around and often shake his head with the doll in his mouth.. funny thing to watch thou.... and that colorful rubber ball with a bell inside... He used to grab it and shake it so it makes some noise..He liked the noise...

 Apparently, he loves to chew the bone and the doll the most.

I have plan to bought him rope toys and squicky toys.. since toys aren`t that cheap, so yeah, I`ve to managed the purchase.. :p

Going To The Vet

 

By recomendation from my friend whose dogs been treated there, we went to Animal Clinic Jakarta. Me and my Lil Bro, take Milan to the Vet only 30 minute driving car (with traffic) from our home.  It was a nice decorated clinic, clean and easy to reach. Look at those cutey red chair.. Milan loved it!

Milan got nervous when we get in to the clinic, probably because there were lots of dogs that queue, but Milan managed to do photo shoot on the chair.. ^_^)

I noticed something strange with his scracthing behaviour so I told Vet about it. He`s got his 2nd Jab along with dewormed and Frontline anti-tick medicine. The Vet also checked Milan`s pup, eyes, ears.. everything`s fine, only the tick problems. Thanks God.. he was doing fine after the Jab. Eat well, play active and sleep well. My Attaboy!

New Family Member!

"Milan"

The Black Toy Poodle

Milan| Male| Toy Poodle| DOB: Jan 6 2013

The Idea of Own a Pet

I don`t really like or know things about dogs before cause the way I raised by my Moslem parents. Practically my whole life I didn`t get used to see dogs around me.
The idea of own a pet is came from years of watching Cesar Millan "The Dog Whisperer". He gave me clear view about dogs. From what I get "Dogs are the best companion who have compassion heart that brings joy to the owner IF we treat them right.

Choosing The Right Breed For Me

So, I am a young house wife, I have plenty of time to taking care, I live in a land house have a little garden at front of house, but I`m not allowed to take heavy activities like long run because I`m in programme to conceive a baby, I like a dog that I can cuddle and carry on my arms, I like the dog that have minimum shed and dog whose coat can be clipping in style. Oh and another important point, I don`t like dogs that drool to much.
I took lots of quiz to help me determine which breed is meet my condition so we both would get the best of this relationship. Animal Planet Breed Selector is the best of them (in my opinion). Toy Poodle is the winner!

Choosing The Name

Before we buy the Toy Poodle puppy, me and Hubby had a debate about the Name. I wanted to named him Gucci or Prada.. but here`s the case, at first my hubby insist wanted a large powerful breed, which I know they didn`t meet with my conditions. After I convinced him by asking him to watched Cesar Millan, he surrender to let me choose the breed just with one condition, we should named the Toy Poodle "Milan" referring to his favourite soccer team AC MILAN. I goes like.. O.o Aww okay, that won`t hurt. "Milan" is famous, edgy, familiar to spell.. and more "Milan" remind me of The Dog Whisperer who inspired me to own a dog.. I hope it`s oke with Cesar Millan.. :)

 

Being a Stay at Home Wife is... (part II)

One of my dreams

I graduated and earned a bachelor degree. My GPA was 3.31 and I had intention to become financial independent woman. This was one of my dreams. I wanted to be independent so that I could taking care of my family.

I was work at property developer before I marry him. I found it interesting to have a job, being a part of a great community, excel my skills, have many friends, got my own money and spent it for them who I loved. I can tell, being able to work and earned money is challenging and fun. I also got honored by "Employee of the month" thingy.

I admit I loved my job, but --apparently-- I love being a wife/mom more than I love my job. So, somehow, in my hurtful-debate with folks and families --who expected me to stay work, and said I'm wasting my time being a SAHM/W-- my heart says it is the right thing, he is the right person and this is the right time.

Yep, I took the risks and go where my heart wanted to not what people expected me to. Besides, being married and built my own family is one of my dreams too.