Things You Should Never Say To Us!

Infertility problem for most of us is like a grieving process. Rollercoaster of emotion that full with ups and downs. Waiting, hoping, disappointment, hurt, pain in knowing that SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH YOUR BODY (literally). It is a medical problem, it`s like you being diagnose with cancer or other life-threatening disease.

If you have friends or families whose dealing with Infertility problems, here are things you should never say to them:

1. Pregnant yet?
Asking us question like that really won`t help. If you intend to have a pep talk.. pleaseee.. avoid this phrase! It`s like we being remind of how unfertile our womb by not being pregnant yet.. Trust us, when we get pregnant, we will tell to the whole world! If necessary we will just spam all website just to tell we are pregnant and to show how HAPPY we are!
 
2. "It`s just not the time, just be patient" 
When talking about "It`s just not the time" Its like you put curse on us, you determine our destiny by words you said. Its not in your power to decide is it the time or not, Its in God`s hand. No human is appropriate to say this to other human! and did you know how many years already gone by? Being patient is the first thing we have done all year.
   
3. "Enjoy your childless moment"
I heard this a lot and it didnt make feel any better. Really! Manicure, shopping, gathering with friends, travel, having fun, midnite movie.. Trust me, Most of us must had enjoy them that like million time when we were still single, we had enough of that and right now we want to be a mom!
 
4. "Don`t overthink about it, relax!"
How can you stop thinking about something that become your ultimate dream? Having a child on our own must be on the top of our bucket list. Our ultimate dream! The highest achievement in human life and how can we relax if knowing something is totally wrong with your body? Depressing lab results, crazy bills to pay, weary mental, pressure from relatives. It drives us nuts!

5. "Cherish what you have now"
So yeah, we have good life, good husband, supportive family, we can travel a lot, we have this, we own that. We totally aware and indeed very grateful of what we have right now, but truly, nothing compare with the blessing to have a baby on our own.
 
6. "Sometimes I wish I didn`t have a baby this early"
This statement always trigger my anger. Everytime I heard I was like "The ffff you just said? God blessed you with such of fertile womb and yet you put cursed on them? you regret one of God`s ultimate bless in life? Are you even have a heart?". 
Be careful with what you about to say, words can be so hurtful. Mostly when you said it to us -who struggle to death just to have at least one baby-

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